Romantic Texting To Reignite The Passion

Posted on February 21, 2012 by

romantic textingI’m always on the lookout for techniques to reignite passion, increase intimacy, and get your partner in the mood for sex.

I recently watched a video from the Rachel Ray Show with Michael Fiore in which Fiore, a relationship coach, talked about how you can use simple text messages on your phone to connect with your spouse or partner in a way that hasn’t felt this romantic since you first started dating.

At first I was a bit skeptic because I couldn’t imagine how this can actually work… I mean, how can text messages have this kind of power… but then I read about how people say that these text messages, when used correctly, helped them increase the romance, attraction, intimacy, and sexual spark in their marriage.

I immediately thought that this could be a great technique for you to use to fix your sexless marriage and get the passion you deserve back into your life. I think that this can be a wonderful tool to use for anyone who feels like they could use a little more romance in their relationship. For people in a sexless marriage, this can prove to be a real life saver.

The Text The Romance Back guide by Michael Fiore is a good solution for you because:

  1. Texting is cheap – It sure is more affordable than spending a lot of money on flowers, chocolates, expensive dates, etc.
  2. It’s easy to do – you don’t need to spend a lot of time thinking about it. You just need to text.
  3. It works for men and women both – Michael’s guide has texting instructions for both men and women.
  4. It’s not crude – These are not crude sex messages, but romantic ones, so you don’t need to feel bad about using them. They won’t cause anything but the pleasant surprise of feeling romantic.
  5. There are plenty of reviews from people who say that this works like crazy.

Click here to watch the video in which Michael Fiore explains how this works

I believe that this romantic texting guide can prove to be a very useful tool for you. It may help you lower the resistance of your spouse to your advances as these can make him or her feel more romantic, loved, wanted, and desired. It can be a remarkable tool for greater passion and lovemaking.

Naturally, you need to do this right in order to create the right kind of atmosphere, so make sure to follow the video of Michael Fiore and the instructions he shares in it. If you do, I believe that there is a good chance that you will see a great improvement in the state of your marriage. Who knows, maybe it won’t be sexless any longer.

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Why Do People Stay In a Sexless Marriage?

Posted on December 9, 2011 by

couple in sexless marriageFor people who don’t live in a sexless marriage and never had, the idea that people are content to continue with their relationship even when it has come to such a low point may seem strange.

Why are they still together? Some may wonder. Why don’t they get a divorce or simply separate? How can they continue to live like this? I hope to give you some options of why many couples live for years in a sexless marriage and may continue to do so for many more.

For The Children

If you have children you love them more than anything else. You love them more than you love yourself, more than you could imagine yourself capable of before you had them. This kind of boundless love also invites sacrifice, and it is no wonder that many couples choose to overcome their differences and stay in a sexless marriage for a long time for the sake of their children.

This is a noble thought and not something to ridicule. Divorce can be hard on children and sometimes people choose to maintain a facade of happiness just to give their children a stable life and the sensation of a loving home.

Due To Religious Upbringing

Some people are taught to treat marriage as a solemn pact that can never be broken. It doesn’t matter how bad it gets. It is not something you end. Divorce is not an option for these people.

This is usually due to a religious upbringing which views marriage as a contract made before God and one which is not to be dissolved. For these people, divorce is unthinkable. They will remain married to the end of their days.

For Financial Reasons

When people get married they also form a financial unit. Breaking up can prove to be a costly business. You may get into expensive legal squabbles and need to rent or buy a new place to live. Therefore, a lot of couples consider their options and don’t see any way that they can build a new life and maintain the same standard of living as they have now. They simply stay together out of financial necessity and nothing more.

For Love

Living with a sexless partner does not kill off the love. A lot of people don’t want to split up. They want to be with the same person they married. It is this person whom they still love and long to be with. The fact that they’re having these problems is painful to them but it doesn’t change the way their love their partner. They want to fix their sexless marriage, not end it.

Now you know why people make what seems to be an impossible decision: to stay in a marriage which is devoid of sex. They do so for various reasons. None of them should be ridiculed. Whatever the reason may be, they have a right to lead their own life and they do try to make the best of their relationship. This is why so many people continue to live in a sexless marriage for so long.

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How To Not Lose Hope

Posted on October 31, 2011 by

One of the hardest challenges that a person who is living in a sexless marriage must face is the loss of hope. It’s very easy to assume that your marriage is coming to an end and that this current situation cannot be turned around.

In this post I want to talk about hope and how you can and should cling to it. I don’t want you to give up on your marriage so quickly. As long as you love your spouse, there is room for hope and you should make an effort to fix your sexless marriage.

Why Do You Lose Hope?

Why do some problems that you face in life make you feel hopeless while others don’t?

It has to do with your perception of a possible solution. In particular, you need to believe that a solution is within your power and that it doesn’t require a huge amount of time or effort.

sad man looking at his wifeBeing in a sexless marriage can, indeed, look like a situation in which there is no real or known solution. There’s always therapy, but even that is not certain. It is certainly not short.

The problem is that for the average Joe or Jane, there is no preparation for this kind of problem. No one can actually believe it is happening to them. This is an issue that’s whispered about and always happens to “other” people, never to you.

So, it’s not surprising that many people feel hopeless when their marriage becomes sexless. It is something most of us don’t know how to deal with at all.

How To Gain Hope

To regain hope you simply need to believe that a solution is possible and that it is within your powers to get it. Let’s talk about a few things that you need to remember:

1. You are not alone in having this problem – It is shared by millions all over the world. It is much more common than people admit. It’s quite likely that some of your friends, even those who seem perfectly happy together, are in such a marriage right now.

2. People do get over this – There’s no reason to believe that your case is especially bad and that you and your partner are too far gone to fix things. Is it possible that this is so? I can’t say for sure. I don’t know you nor your spouse. I can’t make a specific call like that. However, why consider the worst case scenario when there is a more positive one?

3. Where there’s love there’s hope – Do you love your spouse? Are you ready to make an effort to get things back to the way they were?

Why shouldn’t this be enough? You’ve already won your spouse over in the past, why shouldn’t you be able to do so again?

Once you realize that you have the ability to affect change in your life and you have the ability to do the same with your partner, then you know that hope is not gone, that there is a way for you to rectify things.

I won’t sugar-coat this situation: it’s not a good one to be in. It may take a while for your marriage to get back on track. It may involve a lot of anger, frustration, and heartache. However, this is the choice you have to make: will you surrender to despair or will you cling to hope? The decision is yours to make.

 

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Fix Your Sexless Marriage – A Plan For Both Genders

Posted on September 21, 2011 by

couple in bedThe leading online program for men and women who are living in a sexless marriage was written by Kate Dixon and is called Fix Your Sexless Marriage. This is a program that is designed to help people whose spouse has lost his or her desire to have sex.

Let’s talk about this program as it offers a possible solution for people who are desperately trying to improve or solve their sexless marriage.

Fix Your Sexless Marriage is, in fact, a program which is offered in two formats: one for men and one for women. This is also the big advantage it has over other books and programs on the subject.

The idea is that a woman who is trying to revive her husband’s sex drive needs to do it in a different way than a man who is trying to revive his wife’s libido. Each gender requires different motivation and responds to other things. This is why Kate Dixon created two plans and didn’t just offer general advice that will probably not help you much.

The advice in Fix Your Sexless Marriage is geared toward 3 things:

1. Helping you to stop feeling bad about what’s happening and allowing you to deal with it better.

2. Finding out what may have caused your sexless marriage in the first place.

3. Taking the right steps to heal your relationship, create renewed attraction, and revive the intimacy and passion.

Nothing in this program is crude. Everything is presented in a clear and easy to follow manner that appeals to men and women both.

This can work for people who live in Christian marriages, don’t feel comfortable to talk about sexuality, and are feeling like they can’t do this alone. It will simply provide you with guidance on what you need to do in order to create a better relationship and revive the passion in your marriage.

Does the Fix Your Sexless Marriage Program Work?

As each couple has a story all of its own and no case is similar, it’s impossible for me to say whether this program will work for you. I will say that it doesn’t deal with physical problems. It only helps relationship issues.

That being said, there are some great things about this plan:

1. It offers simple action steps that you can begin taking immediately. There’s no need to wait any longer. Taking action, by itself, is important.

2. The program has some great reviews online. You can find plenty of websites which recommend it.

3. Fix Your Sexless Marriage comes with a money back guarantee so you can try out the tips for 60 days and see if any improvement occurs. If not, you can get your money back.

4. Kate Dixon, the author of the program, offers 30 days of personal support for each customer. This is very important if you have any questions about the plan and what you need to do.

Bottom line is that you need to do something in order to save your marriage and this program is a good plan to use for your particular issue. To learn more about it visit FixYourSexlessMarriage.com

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Is Sex In Marriage a Right?

Posted on September 6, 2011 by

estranged couple lying in bedI’ve just read an interesting report this morning about a woman in France who sued her ex-husband for not having enough sex with her during their marriage.

This may seem like a frivolous law-suit, but apparently the presiding judge thought otherwise. According to French law, a marriage should be a “shared communal life”. This is why the woman was awarded damages of 8,500 Euros, about $13,000. This is for what, she claims, are 21 years of marriage with little sex.

This is an interesting story, but I’m not here to report the news. I believe that this story actually touches upon an important issue: one of rights. As this ruling states, in a marriage, a partner is “entitled” to sex with his or her partner. This may seem a bit strange because sexual intercourse should never be done except when it is desired by both parties. However, isn’t it also correct to say that when we get married with take it for granted that sex will happen?

I think that most of us do so even if we never put it into so many words. We believe that our partner will always love and care for us, will always want us as they have when they were dating us or during the earlier parts of our marriage.

Perhaps, our taking this for granted is unwise. Maybe this is what causes us to drift into a boring routine which may cause a sexless marriage in the first place.

I’m not going to say whether I agree with this ruling or not. After all, I don’t know enough about French law nor the details of this specific case. What I can say is that intimacy should never be taken for granted. It should not be assumed. It can die if not nurtured. It is up to you to always nurture it.

Remember, this woman may have gotten some revenge for the wrong she feels has husband has done her. However, she was in a marriage without intimacy for 21 years. I doubt if this payment will make up for all those years of feeling alone and rejected.

While a marriage can’t survive on distrust and anxiety, it should not be taken for granted as well. No part of it. It should be taken care of, build upon, and improved constantly.

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What Casues a Sexless Marriage

Posted on August 30, 2011 by

In order to find a solution to your sexless marriage you must first consider what caused it. Naturally, not knowing the specifics of your relationship, I cannot point out the exact cause of your marital problems. What I can provide is a number of common reasons why a couple lose their desire for each other and allow their marriage to spiral out of control into a passionless state.

Here are some of the most common causes of a sexless marriage:

1. Physical problems – This is something that most people fail to consider and it may be the easiest thing to correct. There are many physical conditions that cause a reduction in a person’s sex drive. This is true for men and women both. Often, this is a little known symptom of some illness or condition so, unless you speak with a doctor about it, you will probably never know that this is happening to you or your spouse.

In addition, some medication may carry with it the potential side effect of damaging (temporarily) a person’s libido. This may be medication that you or your spouse are taking for a totally unrelated issue. You may not even be aware that such a side-effect exists. Again, it is important to speak with your doctor about this issue.

2. An affair – First, let me say that an affair does not always or even usually lead to a sexless marriage. It just may. Second, an affair can damage the sexual frequency in a marriage in two ways:

  1. The offending party simply finds their sexual desires met by their lover.
  2. The offended spouse, upon learning about the indiscretion, simply does not want to have sex any longer with the person who offended them.

Either way, if an affair is ruining your marriage you need to take steps to come to terms with it, to see how you can continue forward and to fix things before they get out of hand completely.

3. Lack of physical attraction – It should be said that there are many couples who love each other and find each other attractive even though they may not objectively be termed as such. This needs to be said. Just because you’ve gained a little weight or gotten a bit older, does not mean that a sexless marriage is inevitable. However, there are cases in which one spouse simple stops finding the other attractive any longer. And yes, many times this has to do with weight gain.

4. A fight – A small fight can turn into big trouble. You may not realize how we can take our fights to heart. We may find it very hard to let go of bad emotions when we feel hurt and insulted. This is why I urge you to solve your fights quickly and not let them simmer and continue to rage under the surface. It is very important to make things right as soon as you can.

5. Stress – Whether it’s financial, health related, or any other form of stress, it can kill your mood or that of your spouse as easily as you can imagine. A life full of stress is one without passion. You need to do what you can to reduce stress for you and your spouse. This can make all the difference.

Try to think whether any of these reasons apply to your marriage. It will help you take the right steps to get things fixed for the future.

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5 Tips To Handle Fights With Your Spouse

Posted on August 21, 2011 by

couple fightingNo marriage is free of fighting. It’s a natural occurrence and not something you need to worry about. However, there are cases in which fights with your spouse can escalate into something else entirely and actually create a lot of animosity between you two.

This animosity can fester and turn to outright anger which may, in turn, lead to a distancing and the development of a sexless marriage.

To help you deal better with fights, I’ve compiled the following 5 tips:

1. Keep it about this fight and not others – One mistake people make when they get into fights is that they bring up past fights and arguments to prove their point. You don’t want to do that. It will simply make your spouse very angry. There’s no need to bring up things that happened in the past. It has no bearing on this present fight. You need to only talk about the topic at hand.

2. Be ready to apologize if you’ve made a mistake – Don’t act on principle. Consider the possibility that you’re wrong and be willing to apologize. Defuse the fight as quickly as you can and it will not grow to be a big wound between you two.

3. Never go to sleep angry – Nighttime should be the end of all fights. Make sure to come to terms with your spouse before you close your eyes and fall asleep. I find that disagreements which are left open during the night tend to grow out of proportion and they become much worse than they should have ever been. So, make sure to make up before your bedtime. Who knows, you might even get some makeup sex out of it.

4. Don’t let the kids get involved – Whatever you do, you have to protect your children. Kids are affected by the relationship of their parents. They take these fights to heart and it can harm their sense of security and the way they view relationships. You want your children to lead a happy life, so you should protect them and avoid fighting in front of them.

5. Be calm and watch what you say – In the heat of the moment you may say things that you will regret forever. You may insult your spouse in a way that will be hard to forgive. Think before you speak, even when you feel like you just have to say what’s on your mind.

Finally, remember that no fight is worth damaging your relationship over. This is the person you’ve chosen to spend your life with. Don’t let a moment of anger tear you two apart. Keep calm, work toward a solution, and you should never let a fight harm what you have between you.

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Can You Fix A Sexless Marriage?

Posted on August 18, 2011 by

couple in bed after a fightOne of the main questions that people who find themselves living in a sexless marriage is whether they can do something about it. Can you really fix a sexless marriage and get the passion back?

The answer is never clear. Some marriages are simply broken beyond repair. In some cases, all the love has been lost and there is simply no will to fix things. This is the first thing you need to be able to get your marriage back on track: the will to take action and to work hard until a solution is found.

Even if you’re willing to make the necessary effort, there are some cases in which a sexless marriage cannot be fixed.

If the reason why your spouse has lost his or her desire for you is physical then you need a physical solution. In some cases, no such solution is available. For instance, if your spouse was in an accident or has to take medication which kills off his or her sex drive, you may find that there is simply no way for you two to make love. You should consult with a doctor to see what can be done about it.

If the issue is emotional, there is room for hope. You can and should take action to improve how you and your spouse communicate, be open about your feelings and emotions, take steps to increase trust, intimacy, and companionship.

This may not be a short process. It may take some time and there will be setbacks and moments in which you will feel despair and anguish. You will not know if things are going as they should. This is only natural. This is a repair process which may not be as simple as you wish it to be.

I believe that for many couples there is a way to bring the passion back. It requires openness, honesty, and a willingness to change. However, there are no guarantees. Some people prefer to leave things as they are. They’re afraid to make things even worse than they are at the moment. It’s up to you to make this decision for yourself. It’s something that no one can decide for you.

I hope that the articles I write in this site will help you find the path to a better marriage with greater love, both physical and emotional and that you’re be able to heal your sexless marriage.

 

 

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Sexless Marriage Help – How to Stay Sane in a Sexless Relationship

Posted on August 18, 2011 by

african american coupleLiving in a sexless marriage is one of the hardest things you may go through. The very fact that your marriage is now devoid of passion is unexpected. No one who gets married ever believes that their relationship will some day deteriorate to such a low place.

 

You may feel rejected, confused, alone, and fearful of the future. It’s enough to drive anyone crazy. In this post I want to share some tips on how you can stay sane in a sexless marriage.

 

  1. You are not alone – Sexless marriages are much more common than most people believe. You may be feeling that you’re the only person in the world who’s suffering from this. The fact is that over 10% of all couples live in what is defined as a sexless marriage. This means that it is not rare and you are far from alone. This may not solve your personal problem, but it should at least make you feel better about yourself.

 

  1. Invest in yourself – one of the best ways to get your partner to see you differently (and perhaps get him interested again) is to invest more time and attention to you. Start a new hobby, something you’ve been wanting to do but never found the time for. Take a course at a local college. Start exercising more often or take a dance class. When you focus more on yourself, you will find that the state of your marriage bothers you a little less.

 

  1. Know that there’s hope – While it may seem like the sky is falling, I assure you that it’s not. There are people who have seen the passion in their marriage dwindle, took action, and brought it back to life. There’s a good chance that you can do the same. It may be an uphill battle, but once you set your mind to it and realize that the future may be better, you will find it easier to deal with your sexless marriage.

 

  1. Appreciate yourself – Know that what is happening does not mean that you’re undesirable or unattractive. As I said, this is very common and happens for couples young an old, beautiful or not. It is mostly an emotional problem that is caused by some difficulty within the marriage itself. It is not all about you.

 

  1. Rejoice in what’s good – If there wasn’t anything good about your marriage would you still be in it? I believe that you love your partner, you kids, and the lift that you two built together. You can take comfort in the good things while you continue to work to fix what is broken.

 

I hope that these tips have helped you to improve how you feel and to show you that a sexless marriage is not the end of the world.

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Sexless Marriage Advice For Women – What Turns Men On and Off

Posted on August 16, 2011 by

The common stereotype in our society is that men are always ready for sex while women are much less iwoman sitting on a bed while her husband sleepsnto it.

This is why women who suddenly find that their husband has lost his sex drive or is simply not interested in them any longer are more than a little surprised. It is scary. It seems unnatural.

 

However, it is not uncommon at all. In fact, it actually makes sense when you consider what turns men on and how they get turned off.

 

You see, men are seduction-predators. Instinctively, they enjoy the excitement of seducing and sleeping with women they’ve recently met. They like to feel that they can conquer the hearts of more and more women. This is why men are very passionate at the beginning of a relationship, but may lose their desire as it lengthens in time.

 

Men simply get bored. It’s part of their nature. Once the “conquest” part is over and done with, their interest wanes. They may still love you and find you attractive and be aroused by you, but they can now keep their hands off you.

 

The reason why many marriages lose their passion is that men are simply bored with routine. You may be beautiful, thin, and other men may stop in the street just to look as you go by, but it may not matter. If your marriage, inside the bedroom and out of it, has fallen into a routine, then your husband or boyfriend, may indeed lose some of his passion for you.

 

In some cases, this is viewed as normal. The frequency of lovemaking simply decreases. This happens to nearly everyone. In other cases, what happens is that you stop having sex altogether or close to it. In this case, you can label your relationship as sexless.

 

If this is indeed the case, it may be the your husband still has sexual urges, but they’re not directed at you. He may find other women appealing, but the spark that drew him to you has grown fainter.

 

In this case, you may blame routine. It kills off the thriving lust of passion. It turns off the predatory drive of a man. To get the passion back, you have to eliminate the routine you two have fallen into. This is the time to start exploring new ways for you two to spend time together and it may be time for you to explore new ideas in the bedroom as well.

 

You don’t have to get kinky or do anything that you don’t like. This isn’t the idea. The goal is to spice things up in your marriage, be ready to do things differently, and make your men feel as if everything is new and fresh. This, I believe, is something you can indeed do. And, if you take it seriously then you may find that your husband is suddenly more attentive and passionate. So, keep this in mind: routine kills passion. It’s your goal to change that and bring back the passion into your sexless marriage.

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